067: What Never Meeting Expectations Does to Kids with ADHD

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Never meeting expectations means our kids with ADHD and/or autism feel like they never succeed. That is a heavy burden that can take a monumental toll on any individual. In this episode, I outline all the repercussions possible when a child feels like they never succeed and what you can do to keep the worst of the consequences from happening to your child. 


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Toxic Stress on Kids at School: Nowhere to Hide by Jerome Schultz, Ph.D.

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I help stuck and struggling parents (educators, too) make the pivots necessary to unlock success and joy for neurodivergent kids and teens, themselves, and their families. I'm honored to be part of your journey!

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Join me as I help parents, caregivers, and educators like you harness the realization that we are all beautifully complex and marvelously imperfect. Each week I deliver insights and actionable strategies on parenting neurodivergent kids — those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, learning disabilities…

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  • I have been listening and really educating myself on adhd as my son who is just 6 has. He just started first grade and we started a non stimulate med three weeks ago. We had a teacher meeting and he is the only kid in his class who is not up to first grade expectations. It is very true that he emotionally and socially is a year or two behind but is very smart. We considered holding him back in kindergarten but teacher said he will be bored. I feel badly that he may be a stand out in class and he does not want to even go. I am struggling with what to do, getting an iep or 504 in place seems very confusing and difficult. Any suggestions?
    Thank you for your podcasts!

    • Intelligence has nothing to do with functioning — they're two different parts of the brain. ADHD impairs functioning, especially in school where kids are asked to sit still and attend for long hours in a distracting and overwhelming environment that assumes they are all neurotypical. If he's not at grade level, he needs a 504 plan or IEP. I would request the IEP first, because it's much more robust, and settle for a 504 plan if he's not approved for an IEP. Here's a step-by-step guide: https://www.additudemag.com/iep-step-1-document-the-warning-signs/.

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