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I just loved this podcast! I read the explosive child from your recommendation and decided to leave our behviorbeh therapist who basically just used the approach that my daughter was acting out and failing in school for negatove attention. She is only 5 and I didn't feel comfortable ignoring her when she didn't behave because we could go for hours and she had no clue what I was communicating to her by just ignoring her. I have made this switch in our home of chosing to believe that no child wants to be punished and if they could do well they would! It has been harder to get my husband to adapt this mindset though, he is much for of an old school parent and what really causes the negative talk is when she hurts her younger siblings, his main point is we cant allow her to hurt people and will often carry her kicking and screaming to her room. Do you have any advice for the skeptical husband? I also am having a hard time getting him on board with the diagnosis of combined extreme ADHD as well. She's scored very aever and is at a 0 on the fine motor rubric at her kindergarten. He thinks she will just grow out of it, I'm at a loss 😉 thx and I LOVE your show!
I have a pretty reactive husband too. Mine has come around over time, but still gets caught up in frustration. He is right that she needs to learn not hurt others — but you have to address why she behaves that way to change it, as you know. 😉
I sat listening to this podcast(my first) and was sobbing!!! I have an amazing 11 year old boy with a heart of gold! He may be the kindest human being I’ve met and he has ADHD and anxiety. This episode hit home in many ways, but mostly for what my son and I hear at school. “He refuses to read his AR book, he won’t do anything independently, he chooses to act out and make poor decisions!” We had to institute at positive chart where he and the teacher each had to come up with ONE positive each day, because the negativity was sooo bad. How do we adovocate for our child, support and help his teachers, and I should mention teach in the same building. Being a parent and teacher in the school your child attends is TOUGH!!
Advocating with public schools is a nightmare (in my experience). They just don't get it. So, no matter what we do, it's a negative experience for our kids, because they're not designed for neuro-atypical students. I love the idea of one positive from teacher and student every day! What an uplifting reminder that our kids CAN succeed, if we create the opportunity for it.