033: Why Behavior Isn’t “BAD,” with Holly Moses

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I'm talking with behavior analyst, Holly Moses, about why looking at behavior as “bad” isn't the best parenting approach for kids with ADHD. Often, the gap between expectation and capability leads to unwanted (“bad”) behavior. Listen in to learn effective strategies to elicit appropriate behavior, and to effectively address unwanted behavior. Holly and I will adjust your mindset for behavior so you can be the parent your child needs.

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My Guest

HOLY MOSES, BCBA, LPA, LPC

Holly Blanc Moses is a Psychologist and Board Certified Behavior Analyst with over 20 years' experience in Autism and ADHD. Her specialty areas include challenging behavior, anxiety, social skills deficits, and academic challenges. She is also a mother of two differently wired boys.

 

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I'm Penny Williams.

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I'm your host, Penny.

Join me as I help parents, caregivers, and educators like you harness the realization that we are all beautifully complex and marvelously imperfect. Each week I deliver insights and actionable strategies on parenting neurodivergent kids — those with ADHD, autism, anxiety, learning disabilities…

My approach to decoding behavior while honoring neurodiversity and parenting the individual child you have will provide you with the tools to help you understand and transform behavior, reduce your own stress, increase parenting confidence, and create the joyful family life you crave. I am honored to have helped thousands of families worldwide to help their kids feel good so they can do good.

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2 Comments
  • MBatt
    March 9, 2018 at 9:43 pm Reply

    I was diagnosed as a child Mental Retarded, I went thru hell!! I am 55 years old, I was retested and I'm not retarded, at all I have OCD and ADHD. Now what do I do??

    • Penny Williams
      March 13, 2018 at 6:54 pm Reply

      Now that you have a diagnosis of ADHD and OCD, you can seek treatment. The clinician that gave you these diagnoses should be able to point you in the right direction for that.

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