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Loved this podcast as I often have that question with my 2e kid. It is so complicated indeed!
Just tonight my son was in his room all alone. He’s a senior in high school, it’s a Friday night and I’m thinking, why aren’t you out with friends. He says, “mom I’ve been at school for 7 hours with people, I want to be alone.” And I get it. He is an introvert and it’s exhausting for him to be around people. But he doesn’t just want to be alone in his room. He wants to be watching YouTube, gaming or on social media. And I can be okay with him being alone in his room for hours upon hours, but it seems super unhealthy when a screen is involved. But on the other hand, what would he do in his room if he wasn’t on a screen. And he’s 18 and I’m trying to let go of some of the control.
Thoughts? Suggestions?
Thanks!!
I am so glad you are hearing his needs and boundaries and honoring them. My kids were similar and really needed the quiet alone time. They were ok with it — more ok than forcing themselves to be social in person. When I was a teen at home, I talked on the phone for hours or watched tv for hours. Often online, our kids are connecting and being social, just through a screen. They often feel more confident and competent socially in that scenario than in person.
But, of course, there needs to be a healthy balance (if he taking care of hygiene, physical and emotional health, schoolwork or work?). And, at his age, he has to want that healthy balance, so it's a matter of educating him and giving him the control over it. The more you pressure and try to control a teen, the more distance they will put between you and it will damage your relationship (and give you less influence – the opposite of what you wanted).