It's time to stop trying to fix your kid, and
adjust your parenting for the kid you've got.
Learn to
unlock success + joy for your kid
and your family.
I'll teach you how to dial down the chaos and big emotions and maximize successes for your neurodivergent kid. You'll parent with purpose to create a neuro-affirming ecosystem where your kid, and your family, can thrive.
Sound good? Of course it does! Let's get started!
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Let's talk truth: The struggle is real, but it doesn't have to persist.
You can go with the flow when you have a neurotypical kid. Parenting isn’t easy, but your kid develops on the typical timeline, you follow the mainstream, and your kid succeeds.
BUT YOU DON'T HAVE THAT KID.
Helping your kid navigate the challenges that come with ADHD or autism is confusing and frustrating for even the most dedicated parent. Your kid’s challenges compound into parenting challenges.
Despite the complexities, you CAN create an ecosystem for your kid that makes room for joy, creates opportunities for successes, and helps your kid and family thrive.
It’s about creating a culture where your neurodivergent kid feels good so they can do good. And that starts with a foundation of using the mind-body connection and the biology of behavior to create tangible improvement.
You have the best of intentions and you're making every effort, but real improvement is still elusive. That's because you've focused on changing your child, and you haven't addressed the most crucial aspect… your parenting.
The bottom line… You need to change. Not your child.
So, let's get to it!
Let's talk about the #1 parenting block that's keeping you and your neurodivergent kid STUCK, no matter how hard you try to help.
I was standing in the thrift store, fluorescent lights buzzing, as my 6 year old lay on the grimy floor, bellowing and shouting, “It's only a DOLLAR! You're the worst mama ever!”
When I glanced up I was met with the judgmental stares of other shoppers. An overwhelming sense of helplessness gripped my stomach.
I told my son we were leaving and walked toward the door. He literally hung from my coattail, still screaming. I was able to pull us just outside. The cold was both a shock and a relief.
ALL I KNEW TO DO WAS TO TRY TO REASON WITH HIM, BUT IT DIDN'T MAKE A DENT IN HIS INTENSITY.
Sitting in the car, he kept repeating the same phrase in a over and over in a loop. It was as if his brain was a record stuck in a scratch. His dad and I grabbed each other's hands and cried. It was right then that we realized he didn't have any control over his behavior. He was a victim of his own neurology at that moment. It was then clear that traditional parenting wasn't working. I had to muster the courage to step out of my comfort zone, reject societal pressures, and create my own parenting journey. I had to get vulnerable to accept my child's differences and let him guide us to what he needs, rather than trying to control his behavior.Once I learned about the biology of behavior, I realized that my son’s thinking brain was offline during meltdowns and his emotional and survival brains had essentially hijacked his body.
That switch in how I thought about his behavior — from “he won’t” to “he can’t” — shifted everything for us. Once I recognized what was happening under the surface, we were able to help him through stress and prevent most meltdowns altogether.
This turning point offered some relief, fewer battles, a lot less anxiety and stress, and more confidence in our parenting. Not to mention the improvement in our kid's sense of competence, self-confidence, and the transformation in his day-to-day experience.
And that created OPPORTUNITIES FOR SUCCESS AND JOY for my neurodivergent kiddo.
here's the secret...
Behavior is simply a signal of need.
Using your child's signals to guide your parenting is the most effective way to help your neurodivergent kid unlock success.
Hi! I'm Penny.
I haven't always gotten this parenting thing right.
When my kid was diagnosed with ADHD in 2008, I had no idea how to help him. I was overwhelmed, frustrated, exhausted, lost, feeling hopeless, and anything-but-prepared for the journey before us.
I was desperate, but had no guide. So, I spent every. single. spare. moment learning about ADHD. Even then, I still got it wrong for a long time.
It took me about three years of that fruitless dance before I got my mindset right and started learning what was actually going to help my kid, me, and my family — creating opportunities for success in all environments.
I've been deep in the trenches and we've had more than our fair share of ups and downs, but I finally figured out a successful path forward. My neurodivergent kid is a young adult now, and I know that he'll find his greatness.
Here's how I can help you
create improvement and transformation…
Parent Training
When you know better, you do better. I'll walk you through the parenting pivots necessary to help your kid, and your family, thrive. We're reframing and decoding behavior, teaching lagging skills, and ensuring that kids feel seen, heard, and understood.
Expert Knowledgebase
Easily pinpoint proven solutions exactly when needed. When you're a member of AnsweredIt! you'll always have science-backed parenting solutions at your fingertips when you need them — plus a community for connection and support too.
Private Coaching
Get personal guidance and accountability to implement the parenting approaches proven to improve behavior (and parental confidence). We'll set goals, create a plan to meet them, and tweak as necessary, TOGETHER.
I've helped thousands of neurodiverse families like yours. I'd be honored to help you, too.
I'll guide you from feeling helpless and hopeless to watching your neurodivergent child shine. Here's how:
- Apply proven parenting pivots to create an environment for success.
- Get clear on how your child's brain and biology work to understand and transform their behavior.
- Tailor and implement science-backed strategies that work for neurodivergent kids.
- Take care of you with guilt-free self-care so you can do your best for your child.
Unlocking success and joy for your kid is a process.
This is the process I would have jumped fully into the very day my neurodivergent kid was diagnosed if I had known then what I know now. I've worked through all these stages (and continue to work on some when they resurface), but it took years and years to figure this out because there was no guidebook for raising kids with ADHD or autism. I was on my own… but you're not alone. I'm here to save you years of self-doubt and overwhelm and get you on the most effective path right away. Let's build your kid's neuro-affirming ecosystem together!
1 Shift
Redefine what success looks like for your kid and your family.
2 Connect
Kids must feel seen, heard, and truly understood to keep pushing forward.
3 Adjust
Appropriate expectations, support increase doability and success.
4 Nurture
Challenge inside their window of tolerance to build grit, and confidence.
5 Empower
Provide lots of opportunities in talents, interests and passions (TIPs).
Learn with Penny
Become the parent your child needs. We'll do it TOGETHER!
Our parenting programs are designed to educate you about your child or teen's different wiring (i.e., neurological differences) while learning positive, developmentally appropriate, neurodiversity-affirming parenting strategies that work with your child’s neurodivergence – not against it.
These programs don't just offer knowledge and general strategies — they are designed to guide you step-by-step through customizing the strategies for your unique child. (For ADHD, autism, and/or anxiety, ages 4 – 18+.)
COURSE, KIT & Group Coaching
Survival to Success Accelerator™
Your roadmap out of survival mode.
- for parents & caregivers, and for professionals to use with clients
- with Penny Williams & Sarah Wayland, Ph.D.
- 7 Hours of Instruction (designed to complete over weeks)
- Includes monthly group coaching for 1 year
- nervous system, emotions, emotional communication, regulation, challenging behavior
This Program provides the blueprint to calming the chaos and reactivity, fostering connection, and transforming challenging behavior using our Crisis to Clarity Blueprint™ and Regulation Toolkit.
COURSE & (Optional) Private Coaching
Stop Battling with Your Child & Create Calm
A blueprint for empowering your kid.
- with Penny Williams
- 5.5 Hours of Instruction (designed to complete over a few weeks)
- Option to add 2 private coaching calls at a deep discount
- Structure, routine, executive functioning, family life, day-to-day success
This step-by-step program will help you reduce challenging behavior, yelling, and frequent battles; stop feeling stuck and helpless; and empower your child and foster a peaceful family life.
ON-DEMAND Workshop
Teaching & Working with Neurodivergent Kids
How to set kids and teens up for success.
- for educators and professionals
- with Penny Williams
- 3 Hours of Instruction
- understanding neurodiversity, challenging behavior, doability, nervous system, big emotions, regulation, schoolwork
This step-by-step program will help you reduce challenging behavior, yelling, and frequent battles; stop feeling stuck and helpless; and empower your child and foster a peaceful family life.
Yes! It really works!
Donita CREATED A PEACEFUL HOME
“We've had a complete transformation!”
I felt like I was drowning as a mother to my 8-year-old daughter with ADHD. Our entire household was miserable. I took Penny’s course and read some of her books and put some new knowledge and skills into practice.
My household has had a complete transformation. No more yelling and screaming. No more crazy punishments that didn’t work. My daughter and I have an excellent relationship now.
Sarah
GOT A PATH FORWARD
“You've changed our lives!”
When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, I felt confused, lost, angry, and sad. Then the guilt began and the questions were merciless. I would still be lost and confused without the extensive knowledge and supportI’ve received from your course.
I kid you not, my husband and I would be lost without you.
You’ve changed our lives.
Constance GOT A CUSTOM ROADMAP
“I went from angry and frustrated to a mom with a plan, and peace and hope.”
Penny provides concrete steps about how to move forward with each scenario I present. She is realistic that her methods will take time and a lot of repetition, but will work in the end.
This has provided me with a lot of peace of heart. I feel we are on the right track now. My son is happier and more calm.
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FREE COURSE
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FREE QUIZ
Take my Parenting Style Quiz and I'll point you to the most helpful information and resources, given where your at right now.
FREE TRACKER
Parent with purpose! Set your parenting intentions with this weekly tracker.
Pinpoint the exact help you need right now.
There is a LOT of advice out there about raising kids with ADHD, autism, and/or anxiety…
It can be confusing to try to determine the right approaches and strategies for you and your child… not to mention overwhelming and exhausting. I know, because I've been there.
Take my Parenting Style Quiz and I'll point you to the most helpful information and resources, given where your child or teen is at right now.
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We've had a complete transformation!
“I felt like I was drowning as a mother to my 8-year-old daughter with ADHD. Our entire household was miserable. I took Penny’s course and read some of her books and put some new knowledge and skills into practice.
My household has had a complete transformation. No more yelling and screaming. No more crazy punishments that didn’t work. My daughter and I have an excellent relationship now.”
You've changed our lives!
“When my son was diagnosed with ADHD, I felt confused, lost, angry, and sad. Then the guilt began and the questions were merciless. I would still be lost and confused without the extensive knowledge and supportI’ve received from your course. I kid you not, my husband and I would be lost without you. You’ve changed our lives.”
🤩 Instant results
“Thanks so much for this wonderful Program. It's very insightful, especially validating their feelings and asking them how could I help.
Wow! 🤩
Instant results and lowered intensity of the heat.”
Transformed from an angry, frustrated mom to a mom with peace and hope.
“Penny provides concrete steps about how to move forward with each scenario I present. She is realistic that her methods will take time and a lot of repetition, but will work in the end.
This has provided me with a lot of peace of heart. I feel we are on the right track now. My son is happier and more calm.
Penny’s coaching has changed me from an angry, frustrated mom to a mom with a plan and a mom with peace and hope.“
Penny really gets it.
“You are the first of all the people we sought help from that we’ve really connected with and that really ‘gets it.’
Thank you for your openness and mindfulness to our family situation.” 
Imagine...
- enjoying a peaceful home life with less challenging behavior, yelling, and battles with your child.
- feeling helpful, hopeful, and capable of having a positive impact on your child's life.
- having the tools and know-how to truly empower your child.
- witnessing your child enjoying some successes.
- feeling less alone by being part of a community of parents trying to navigate a similar parenting journey.
It IS possible! You just need the tools and the know-how.
You wish someone could help you figure all this out:
- Your kid requires help to get the simplest things done.
- Their school is frequently calling home with problems.
- They don't have any friends and it seems like other kids don't even want to be around them.
- Family time is often miserable because of big emotions and dysregulation.
- They seem to be lazy, unmotivated, and downright oppositional.
We have bright, fun, inventive, energetic kids...
Yet, they can be challenging to parent.
Challenging... but not impossible.
I can’t wait to take you step-by-step to a fundamental shift in the right direction for you and your family, too! Go on! Get started now. Better days are waiting.
Parenting is more challenging than ever.
Add ADHD, autism, and/or anxiety into the mix and you add more challenging behavior, more yelling, and many more frequent battles with your child. Not to mention feeling stuck, helpless, and unable to make life better for your child.
Sound familiar?
You're spinning.
It feels like your kid, your life, and your family are out of control. The chaos, the nagging, the never getting anything done is pushing you to the absolute edge.
You're worried about your neurodivergent child…
- They always require help to get the simplest things done.
- Their school is frequently calling home with problems.
- They don't have any friends and it seems like other kids don't even want to be around them.
- Family time is often miserable because of big emotions and dysregulation.
- They seem to be lazy, unmotivated, and downright oppositional.
It's a lot to navigate.
But it doesn't have to overwhelm and consume you.
That's where I come in.
Here's what's proven to work for our kids.
These are the 3 essentials to reduce challenging behavior, yelling, and frequent battles with your child.
Deep Understanding
It's difficult to understand your child's day-to-day experience given the complexities ADHD and autism add. However, when you combine an open mind and what we know to be true about the nervous system and the brain, a deeper understanding is possible. And that understanding means you can support your child in a more intentional, empowering, and effective way, while also honoring their neurodiversity.
Kids who feel seen, heard, and understood are more confident and competent.
Skills and Strategies
ADHD and autism are developmental delays. That means your child is as much as 30% behind their same-age peers in some areas. With the proper insights, tools, and strategies, you can improve lagging skills, emotional regulation, and behavior.
Parent Mindset
Your mindset about your child’s challenges greatly impacts your parenting success, your child’s success, and the peace and calm of your family. You have the power to choose how you handle your circumstances, and how you teach your child to handle theirs.
Choose your path.
Here's how I can help you transform your family...
The research is clear… parent training not only improves symptoms and behavior, it also reduces parent stress and increases parent confidence. Your parenting is the key ingredient to happy kids and families.
Training
Stop Battling Program
So you can empower your child to thrive and create joy for your entire family.
The Stop Battling with Your Child Program is a brain science-based, 8-week course & coaching program for parents who are ready to create the family life they crave. This program will equip you with the critical skills you need to overcome the most common barriers to successfully managing behavior and emotions.
In this 8-week program, you’ll dial up your impact on behavior and your child’s day-to-day experience, and create more peace for your family.
Coaching
Private Parent Coaching
Parent coaching could be just the helping hand you’re searching for.
I'll guide you over the hurdles and around the obstacles to a more loving, fun, and joyful family life. A parenthood that’s rewarding. I teach a brain-based parenting approach that has been proven to improve behavior and parent confidence for families raising kids with ADHD and/or autism. Sometimes it simply takes a helping hand to guide you in the right direction.
Let’s improve your family’s quality of life — together.
neuro-affirming ecosystem
noun. an interconnected personal sphere of acceptance, tailored to individual neurodivergent needs.
Creating a neuro-affirming ecosystem is all about building environments and relationships where your neurodivergent kid has opportunities for success.
From family culture, to school supports and accommodations, to meaningful social and community relationships, layer by layer we intentionally construct a neurodivergent-friendly ecosystem customized for the individual child and built on kid-lead guidance, collaboration, and connection.
Wanna know the secret?
- It's NOT about hierarchy or authority, it’s about relationships!
- It's NOT about problem behaviors, it’s about working with what’s going on in the body and brain.
- It's NOT about changing your child, it’s about changing how the adults in their life interact with them.
Hey there,
stuck and struggling parent. I bet you're feeling…
You wish someone could help you figure out why mainstream parenting and a ton of effort and desperation isn't helping.
I see you! I get it! I can help.
because I've been where you are. I spent hours online searching for answers and help. I tried what feels like a million things. And, after a few YEARS of spinning my wheels, I finally found a compassionate path to success for my neurodivergent kid, and our family.
