Mom must be a priority too

One of the most important things we can do to be successful and effective parents, is to selfishly take time for ourselves. Parents (especially moms, {wink, wink}) make kids and spouses top priority and only then then consider something for ourselves, if there’s time (there’s never time when you have kids. never. ever.). The oxygen mask theory applies to life though, you have to put the oxygen mask on yourself first to be able to do your best for others. That’s a fact! It takes determination and learning to say “no,” but you can take time for yourself. Permission granted.


10 Musts for Mom Self-Care

  1. Make time for a hobby or another activity you enjoy at least once weekly. Creative ventures will nurture your soul.
  2. Do something relaxing that is purely for yourself. Go for a walk alone or spend time reading a book (NOT about parenting) each day. Make a bubble bath part of your nightly routine.
  3. Focus inward. Practice mindfulness for 10+ minutes each day. This can be done any time, any where.
  4. Give yourself a break. Hire a cleaning person to clean your house regularly, or a landscaper to keep your gardens weed-free. You can even hire out laundry! You do not have to do it all!
  5. Pamper yourself. There are dozens of spa treatments you can do yourself, at home (I have a Pinterest board full of them). Or, go to a spa if you have the time and funds. You are worth pampering! graftefulHEART
  6. Set boundaries and learn to say “no.” You are not superwoman — you can’t do it all. Taking time for yourself will actually afford you the energy to do well for others.
  7. Connect to others. Support is so important when parenting a special needs child. Reach out to ask for a break. Connect with others walking a similar parenting journey. Go to a support group. Have a monthly girls night out. Make time for connecting consistently and frequently.
  8. Take care of your body. Feeling great about yourself will model healthy self-esteem for your children and positively affect your mental health. Schedule time for exercise and make healthy (and mindful) food choices. You are worth premium fuel, don’t you think?
  9. Pay it forward. Helping others is good for our own mental health and well-being. It is also a great example for our children.
  10. Visit your happy place. This can be in your mind or for real. Turn on music that transports you or makes you feel vibrant and alive. Burn a scented candle that reminds you of the beach. Draw a bubble bath and lock the bathroom door. Tour your favorite gardens. Read a good book. Indulge in some retail therapy. Eat chocolate. Drink a glass of wine.

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What else can you do for your own self-care?