The holidays are fraught with traps for kids with ADHD and/or autism. Schedules and routines are out the window. Impulsivity is tested at every turn. Social gatherings are frequent — also loud and overwhelming. A healthy lifestyle is often put on hold. It’s nearly impossible for kids with ADHD and/or autism not to struggle during the holiday season — the pitfalls are everywhere. You have the power to not let this testing of limits ruin your family time though (like we almost did one Christmas several years ago). Here’s how…
What is personal truth?
Personal truth is our individual code, formulated by the culmination of genetics, environment, education, and relationships. There’s so much that goes into making each of us precisely who we are. The characteristics we inherit from our mother and father through genetics. The characteristics we get through genetic abnormalities and derivatives. The culture of and experiences within our environment play a profound role in defining who we are (for instance, a good education boosts opportunities, while a subpar education holds many back from true achievement). Relationships often shape what we think of ourselves, how we see ourselves.
Our personal truth is completely unique to us. No two truths are ever alike. Even identical twins have vastly different personal truths.
Our personal truth is the story of collaboration created by our own heart, mind, and soul. It can be a beautiful, intelligent story, a troubled dark story, a simple warm story, or so many unique facets in between. Our personal truth is the root of everything. Life grows, branches, and meanders from it. Sometimes it produces beautiful flowers and fruit, sometimes it dances in the wind, and sometimes it withers and breaks.
This personal truth is the fundamental essence of who we are. It’s the basis of how we interpret each and every life moment — why we do the things we do. It’s the beautiful prose or the haunting accompaniment to each passage of our own personal story.
As if it isn’t hard enough to figure out who we are growing up, we are ever-changing — physically, mentally, and emotionally. There’s ebb and flow to one’s personal truth.
The role of ADHD and/or autism in personal truth
Their Struggle Is Real
Being a kid with ADHD and/or autism is hard. Our kids’ struggles are real! They are constantly bombarded with both direct and indirect messages that they are “less than” their peers. That they are “lazy,” “stupid,” “unmotivated,” or “bad.” When they consistently see their peers succeeding, but they cannot, not matter how hard they try, it takes a brutal toll on self-esteem.
The good news is, there are lots of ways parents can nurture self-esteem in kids with ADHD and/or autism. These ideas are simple, yet impactful. Read More
Kids with autism have a unique way of thinking about the world that can be both fascinating and baffling. Often their intentions are misunderstood because they behave in ways that are unexpected.
This chart can help demystify some of those behaviors. Read More
The missing piece
What was the one thing you were missing when your child was diagnosed with ADHD? Someone or something to tell you what to do, right? When my son was diagnosed with ADHD in 2008, there wasn’t one person, book, website, etc. to guide me from diagnosis to success. Instead, I was given a few fact sheets and a prescription, and left to figure it out entirely on my own.
And, figure it out I did. But it took me more than two very long years to finally feel like I was making any progress. More than two years to feel a little like I sort of knew what I was doing. Now, eight years later, I’m a self-taught expert (thanks to desperation), and I’m working to fill that gap between diagnosis and success for other parents.
What I didn’t know at the time — when I was working so hard to help my boy but spinning my wheels — was that I was missing parent training, as most of us are. Parent training was the component I needed in order to learn how to most effectively parent my clinically inattentive, bouncing off the ceiling, smart, lovable little guy.
Research proves parent training effective for ADHD
There’s a lot of research and scientific evidence that shows parent training to be an effective approach to managing ADHD. Even better, studies show that parent training can also decrease parent stress and increase parent confidence — a sweet side effect we can all use!
“Considerable scientific evidence indicates that receiving training in key parenting skills helps parents manage their kids’ behavioral problems… ‘Absolutely essential to any treatment program for ADD should be positive relationships,’ both at home and at school, says Edward Hallowell, psychiatrist and author of Superparenting for ADD.”
9 DRUG-FREE APPROACHES TO MANAGING ADHD, US News & World Report, Megan Johnson
“…parent-training programs appear to be successful in treating the primary symptoms of ADHD in school-aged children. Across all of the studies, the parent training programs seemed to be able to increase parental confidence in their management abilities and increase their self-esteem. Coincidentally, it also appears that they were able to reduce parents’ stress, as well as lead to a reduction of ADHD symptoms and child noncompliance.”
THE EFFICACY OF PARENT TRAINING PROGRAMS FOR ADHD CHILDREN: A FIFTEEN-YEAR REVIEW, Developmental Disabilities Journal
“Subjects receiving ‘Parent Training’ displayed significant changes in several areas of psychosocial functioning… ‘Parent Training’ parents reported, for example, improvements in the overall severity of their child’s ADHD symptomatology. These reported changes in child behavior were accompanied by… reduced parenting stress and enhanced parenting self-esteem.”
PARENT TRAINING FOR ATTENTION-DEFICIT HYPERACTIVITY DISORDER: ITS IMPACT ON PARENT FUNCTIONING, Journal of Abnormal Psychology
Parent Training for YOU
- An empathetic individual to listen and understand what you’re going through, and to validate your feelings and struggles.
- Strategies that work to improve what you’re going through right now.
- Step-by-step, inch-by-inch guidance to improve your child’s behavior.
- Accountability to finally implement strategies that work consistently, and to finally create improvement.
- Support from parents just like you.
I’m so excited to offer the parent training we all need, but few of us received!
To celebrate the October launch of the Parenting ADHD Mastermind, I’m giving one lucky parent the Complete Guide to Parenting ADHD online course AND lifetime membership to the Parenting ADHD Mastermind online group coaching! That’s worth $1,297!
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I hope to see many of you in the course and the Parenting ADHD Mastermind. Let’s turn struggles into triumphs together!