It’s no secret that kids with ADHD (and autism) struggle immensely with self-esteem. They’re bumping around in a world of constant messages that they’re different, broken, incapable… As parents of kids with ADHD, a big part of our job is to boost our kids’ confidence and self-esteem.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I talk with therapist Jackie Flynn about simple ways to build our children’s self-esteem. These 10 strategies are simple to implement in our chaotic lives, yet powerfully effective. Enjoy!
Resources in this Episode
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*Be the thermostat, not the thermometer – respond rather than react.
*Focus on the donut, not the hole.
10 Strategies to Build Self-Esteem in Kids with ADHD:
- Looking in your child’s eyes — says “I matter”
- Be a good model and label emotions
- Have a good fun to work ratio
- Spend present time with your child each day
- Unconditional acceptance (every when it’s hard)
- The 20-second hug
- Give your child permission to be human
- Set the stage for healthy attachment
- Recognize accomplishments, even the small stuff (not praise)
- Smile at first sight (Jackie’s favorite)
Trauma creates hyper-vigilance: EMDR therapy, mindfulness, and play therapy are very effective for trauma.
My Guest in this Episode
Jackie Flynn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Education Specialist, Registered Play Therapist, Certified Hypnotherapist, and a Certified School Counselor. Jackie helps children and their families at her thriving Play Therapy and Expressive Arts private practice in Central Florida. She also helps parents persevere through the challenges of parenthood through her podcast, Parenting in the Rain: Insights from the Experts and her online business at Jackie Flynn Consulting, where she offers Parent Coaching, Consulting Services, and Online Training.
Where to find Jackie:
Parenting in the Rain Group: Facebook
Jackie Flynn Host of Play Therapy: Facebook
Counseling in Brevard: Facebook
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Author: Penny Williams
Penny Williams guides and mentors parents raising kids with ADHD and/or autism. She’s the parent of a son with ADHD and autism, and the author of three award-winning books on parenting kids with ADHD: Boy Without Instructions, What to Expect When Parenting Children with ADHD, and The Insider’s Guide to ADHD Penny is the current editor of ParentingADHDandAutism.com, Founder and Instructor for The Parenting ADHD & Autism Academy, and a frequent contributor on parenting and children with ADHD for ADDitude Magazine and other parenting and special needs publications.